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96: Parenting Lies You Were Told (Kelly Brogan Exposes the Truth)
If you want to feel more empowered in ALL of your relationships, end the cycles of pain in your mother line, and feel more confident as a parent, join Kelly for Victimless Mothering.In this episode, you'll learn why children owe parents nothing beyond gratitude for life, how micromanaging your child's space can disconnect them from intrinsic motivation, why control-based parenting breeds entitlement, and how shifting to a devotional approach to motherhood creates a deeper connection.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction [00:30] The mother-child relationship is the deepest form of intimacy[01:15] The habit of micromanaging children's spaces[02:10] How control-based parenting impacts kids[03:05] Teaching kids compliance vs. true cooperation[04:00] Understanding the hidden motives behind parenting rules[05:00] Why children only owe parents gratitude for life[06:10] The natural flow of giving from parent to child[07:05] Recognizing the burden of transactional love[08:00] How unmet childhood needs shape parenting behaviour[09:15] Letting go of expectations for children’s appreciation[10:00] Why it’s okay if children never reciprocate gestures[11:10] The power of giving without expecting anything in return[12:05] How control-based parenting creates entitlement[13:00] Teaching kids intrinsic motivation instead of compliance[14:05] The issue with forcing kids to clean their rooms[15:00] Encouraging kids to take ownership of their space[16:10] How parents project their own discomfort onto their kids[17:00] Shifting from control to true service in parenting[18:00] Recognizing martyrdom and self-pity in motherhood[19:10] Prioritizing motherhood over career and personal goals[20:05] The mindset shift from burden to privilege in parenting[21:00] The importance of truly listening to children[22:00] Letting go of the need to control your child’s choicesResources Mentioned:Family Constellation Training | WebsiteInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.
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95: "The Feminist Promise That’s Destroying Families" - Erica Komisar
If you’re a stretched-thin boss babe, frustrated wife, or “do it all” mamma who just needs a second for yourself, join Kelly’s Free Exhale Masterclass.Erica Komisar is a psychoanalyst and author specializing in maternal mental health. In this episode, you’ll learn why early maternal presence is critical for a child’s emotional well-being, how modern feminism overlooked the developmental needs of children, why feeling bored with your baby may signal deeper psychological issues, the long-term consequences of outsourcing childcare, the link between attachment security and mental health, and why prioritizing motherhood in the first three years can change future generations.Erica Komisar, LCSW, is a clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, and parent guidance expert who has been in private practice in New York City for over 30 years. A graduate of Georgetown and Columbia Universities and The New York Freudian Society, Ms. Komisar is a psychological consultant bringing parenting workshops to clinics, schools, corporations, and childcare settings.She is a contributor to The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, and The New York Daily News. She is also a contributing editor for The Institute for Family Studies and appears regularly on Fox and Friends and Fox 5 News. Erica is the author of Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters and Chicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction [00:30] Why prioritizing motherhood is essential[01:45] The myth of work-life balance for women[03:12] Feminism’s impact on motherhood and career expectations[05:00] The consequences of trying to do it all[06:35] What children really need from mothers[08:20] How attachment security shapes a child's future[10:05] The role of instincts in mother-child bonding[12:10] Why some mothers feel bored with their infants[14:00] The link between postpartum depression and attachment[15:45] How generational trauma affects mothering instincts[17:30] The truth about daycare and institutional childcare[19:15] The psychological impact of a mother’s absence[21:00] Why maternal presence is irreplaceable in early years[22:50] How career-driven mothers can prioritize attachment[24:30] The long-term effects of early separation from mothers[26:15] Understanding the biological need for maternal care[28:00] How modern society devalues caretaking[29:45] Why fathers play a different role than mothers[31:30] The reality of work-life balance in early motherhood[33:20] How freedom and responsibility shape maternal choices[35:00] The impact of career ambition on mother-child bonding[36:45] Why true fulfillment comes from prioritizing relationships[38:30] How modern parenting expectations have changed[40:15] The importance of choosing motherhood with intention[42:00] Why achievement and career success feel empty[43:45] How to redefine personal success as a mother[45:30] Why self-care needs to be balanced with presence[47:15] The difference between necessary breaks and detachment[49:00] How babies experience absence, no matter the reason[50:45] Why the first three years set the foundation for life[52:30] The importance of legacy and emotional healthLearn more about Erica’s work on her website and Instagram.Resources Mentioned:Being There: Why Prioritizing Motherhood in the First Three Years Matters by Erica Komisar | Book or AudiobookChicken Little the Sky Isn't Falling: Raising Resilient Adolescents in the New Age of Anxiety by Erica Komisar | Book or AudiobookEpisode 60 of Reclamation Radio: Choosing Motherhood | Spotify or AppleExhale Masterclass with Kelly Brogan | WebsiteInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.
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94: Parenting Expert: "Stop trying to MANAGE your child's feelings... Do THIS instead." with Cassie Gudmundson
Cassie Gudmundson is a parenting coach who focuses on helping mothers navigate parenting with emotional self-regulation and mindful strategies.In this episode, you're going to learn how to manage toddler tantrums without the power struggles, why focusing on emotional regulation is essential so that toddlers' emotions aren’t suppressed, and how to guide them through feeling their emotions safely. We talk about practical approaches to handling sibling conflicts without creating blame or bad dynamics, how to reduce daily power struggles by letting go of unnecessary controls, and why modelling calm and respectful behaviour is more effective than using punishments or rewards.Cassie is a mama of 3 under 5 years old and a parent coach, specifically for toddler moms. It was a winding path that ended her up there. She previously owned a mindset coaching business — all of her clients were moms too, and she realized they were talking more about motherhood than business! It was obvious that moms were craving a new approach to parenting that allowed them to actually ENJOY these years, instead of just survive through them. With knowledge around Montessori, RIE parenting & in the thick of motherhood herself, she decided to go all in on coaching parenting! A community of 130k+ and nearly 1000 students later, this is definitely the work that was meant to beTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction [04:11] How triggers from childhood influence parenting[06:08] Recognizing the importance of emotional regulation[08:25] Why punishment is not effective parenting[10:16] How to handle toddler tantrums calmly[12:01] Setting boundaries without power struggles[14:25] Managing public meltdowns[16:05] Role of co-regulation in parenting[18:01] Letting toddlers process emotions[22:28] Helping toddlers communicate emotions[24:35] Handling transitions like leaving the park[26:25] Building respect through honesty[28:22] Balancing parents’ needs with children’s autonomy[30:55] Recognizing toddlers as capable individuals[32:32] How parenting style affects older children[35:00] Shifting from control to connection[37:31] The difference between discipline and punishment[40:14] Encouraging intrinsic motivation in children[42:28] Teaching toddlers emotional regulation through play[45:27] The importance of modelling behaviour for kids[47:21] Neutral approaches to sibling conflicts[50:42] Allowing space for children to resolve conflicts[52:45] Prioritizing self-care as a mom[56:19] Reflections on emotional self-masteryConnect with Cassie through her Instagram, TikTok and website.Resources Mentioned:Alfie Kohn | WebsiteRIE Parenting by Magda Gerber | WebsiteAmerican Montessori Society | WebsiteInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.
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93: Audacious Asks:The real reason you’re ignoring RED FLAGS in your relationship
Are you an over-achieving under-receiving woman? Watch my free masterclass.In this episode, you'll learn how to spot red flags early in relationships, set clear boundaries to avoid self-betrayal, meet your own emotional needs, and stay grounded while exploring new connections.Timestamps:[01:44] Starting over after a breakup[01:50] Feeling conflicted about new connections[02:23] Recognizing patterns in relationships[02:47] Identifying emotional availability in new partners[03:40] Avoiding the “intoxication” of attraction[04:10] Staying sober to assess new relationships[04:57] Exploring emotional sovereignty[05:42] Meeting your own emotional needs[06:16] Setting boundaries around relationship requirements[06:42] Avoiding self-betrayal in new dynamics[07:16] Communicating needs clearly and directly[08:10] Red flags as indicators of incompatibility[08:51] Managing emotional safety and security[09:11] Defining preferences versus non-negotiable needsInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.
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92: The next time you’re being gaslit… Do THIS.
End your legacy of over-achieving & under-receiving with Kelly’s free Exhale masterclass.In this episode, you'll learn how to process emotional triggers effectively, avoid defensive reactions, focus on what you truly want in difficult situations, and embrace a playful, creative approach to maintaining your energy and power.Timestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:23] Recognizing emotional triggers and defensiveness[04:04] Identifying patterns in relationships with men[06:40] Resisting the urge to prove your perspective to others[08:21] How overachieving women fall into bitterness and overwhelm[08:54] The power of relaxing into a state of receiving [09:22] Self-regulating emotional responses to upsetting situations[10:06] The importance of being present with your feelings[11:37] Viewing challenges as part of your life’s script[13:02] Avoiding defensive reactions and finger-pointing[14:07] Accessing playful and creative energy in difficult moments[15:27] Shifting from fixing mode to creative mode[16:17] Focusing on what you actually want from an interaction[16:40] Letting go of the need to reorganize someone’s perspectiveResources Mentioned:Vital Mind Reset Program with Kelly Brogan | WebsiteInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comJoin Kelly's monthly membership, Vital Life Project here.Get Kelly’s new book The Reclaimed Woman here and join the companion program, Reclaimed, here.
It hurts to have unmet needs. And it sucks to scurry after crumbs when you’re starving. Join Kelly Brogan MD, as she teaches us how our pain points are portals. She’ll help you discover a world where every seeming challenge is a new chapter in your most audacious story. Plot twists, body symptoms, and heartbreak each represent an opportunity to own ourselves and learn to better wield the power of choice. Kelly will take you on a reclamation journey from the battlefield of victim consciousness to the sovereignty of self-devoted pleasure and expose every surprising place you’ve given your power away. Explore the tools you’ll need to find out what you want, how to ask for it and how to stand in fierce alignment with yourself.Kelly Brogan is a soul alchemist and threshold guardian devoted to the transformation of collective consciousness. As a young know-it-all atheist, candy-addict, straight-A MIT neuroscience major and Ivy-league trained psychiatrist, she specialized in feeding women, herself included, straight into the mouth of the medicated beast. After a Hashimoto’s healing journey inspired her to sound the alarm on the bait-and-switch of big pharma, she became a renegade activist—authoring the New York Times bestseller, A Mind of Your Own, and its follow-up, Own Your Self; co-editing the landmark textbook, Integrative Therapies for Depression; and eventually becoming an honorary member of the Disinformation Dozen. She is the creatrix of Vital Mind Reset, the online health reclamation program, and the membership community Vital Life Project. She’s a human, cat, and chicken mom.
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