The Art of Charm

In today's episode, we cover the art of negotiation, power dynamics, and effective leadership with Dr. Alison Fragale, a leading authority in organizational behavior. As a distinguished professor at the Kenan-Flagler Business School at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, Alison has dedicated her career to understanding how individuals acquire and exercise power and status within organizations. She is the author of the insightful new book, "Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve," combining her rich academic background with real-world applications, Alison empowers women to assert themselves authentically and achieve their career goals.  Join us for an insightful conversation with Dr. Alison Fragale as she unveils the hidden dynamics of power and status that shape our careers and personal lives. Discover how to balance assertiveness with likability, gain respect without compromising your true self, and build authentic status—even if you're new to an organization or battling imposter syndrome. Alison offers actionable strategies to inspire others to advocate on your behalf, navigate conversations that elevate your influence, and become a more impactful leader in your career and beyond. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Alison Fragale to develop an interest in organizational psychology? Why understanding the difference between power and status is crucial for building a fulfilling career and personal life. How do you acquire status and then leverage it to gain power? The Catch 22 of Acquiring Power – 00:07:55 What do most people get wrong about what it takes to gain power in your professional and personal life? Can you be true to yourself if you are trying to acquire status and power? The Secret to Balancing Assertiveness with Likability – 00:20:48 What is the key to being respected? How can you be assertive without making people dislike you? What strategy can you use to build your status authentically? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we uncover the secrets of leadership and team dynamics with Patrick Lencioni, a renowned expert in organizational health and teamwork. As the founder and president of The Table Group, Patrick has spent decades helping leaders build stronger organizations through practical tools and strategies. He’s the author of numerous bestselling books, including The Five Dysfunctions of a Team and his latest, The Six Types of Working Genius: A Better Way to Understand Your Gifts, Your Frustrations, and Your Team.  Get ready for an eye-opening conversation with Patrick Lencioni as he unpacks the powerful framework behind The Six Types of Working Genius. What if the key to unlocking your true potential—and that of your team—lies in understanding the types of work that energize and frustrate you? Patrick shares his groundbreaking model for identifying your natural talents, improving collaboration, and reducing burnout in every aspect of life, from your career to your relationships. We’ll explore how these six types of genius impact team dynamics, decision-making, and personal growth, and how embracing your strengths can lead to greater productivity and fulfillment. Whether you're a leader or simply looking to work smarter, this episode is packed with practical insights to help you thrive. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:34 What inspired Patrick Lencioni to develop The Six Types of Working Genius framework? How did personal struggles at work lead Patrick to uncover the six types of genius? Why understanding your working genius is crucial for building a fulfilling career and personal life. The Six Types of Working Genius Explained – 00:04:41 What are the six types of working genius, and how do they relate to the phases of any project? How can identifying your working frustrations help prevent burnout and dissatisfaction? Why does every successful team need a balance of all six geniuses? Applying Working Genius to Team Dynamics – 00:10:13 How can leaders use this framework to optimize team collaboration and performance? What steps can you take to identify and leverage each team member’s genius? How did a real-world software company transform its innovation process using this model? Overcoming Miscommunication and Conflict – 00:19:33 How can understanding your working genius improve communication in personal relationships? What are the common misconceptions about other people’s work styles, and how can this framework resolve them? Why do working frustrations often lead to conflict, and how can teams overcome this? Practical Applications Beyond the Workplace – 00:27:02 How can The Six Types of Working Genius help with tasks like planning a vacation or running a household? Why understanding your genius is the next evolution beyond love languages in personal relationships. How can couples use this framework to reduce stress and improve collaboration at home? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we explore the importance of community spaces and their role in fostering connection and resilience with Aaron Greiner, a pioneering voice in urban design and social infrastructure. As the executive director of CultureHouse, Aaron has transformed underutilized spaces into vibrant “third places” that bring people together, encourage social interaction, and strengthen community ties. With hands-on experience in urban planning and a passion for creating welcoming, inclusive environments, Aaron has been at the forefront of redefining how we view public spaces in urban areas.  Join us for an insightful conversation with Aaron Greiner as he explores the vital role of “third places” in reconnecting our communities and fostering genuine human interaction in a world increasingly dominated by digital connections. How can we reclaim public spaces as hubs for social connection? What are the hidden health and societal benefits of accessible community spaces? Aaron shares his experience transforming vacant storefronts into vibrant pop-ups, discusses the urgent need for social infrastructure, and reveals why gathering spaces are more crucial than ever for individual and collective resilience. Discover actionable ideas to create your own third place, connect with neighbors, and foster a stronger, more supportive community. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What inspired Aaron Greiner to focus on third places and create CultureHouse? How do third spaces differ from traditional public spaces, and why are they essential for community well-being? What challenges did Aaron face when starting CultureHouse, and how has the organization evolved over time? The Role of Third Places in Society – 00:03:14 What are “third places,” and how do they foster social connection and community? Why have traditional third places, like dive bars and cafes, declined, and what does it mean for social infrastructure? How does the setup of a third place affect how people interact and connect? The Importance of Social Infrastructure – 00:07:28 How does Aaron define social infrastructure, and why is it vital to society? Why did Aaron choose a popup model for CultureHouse’s third places, and what benefits does this approach provide? What impact do third places have on local communities, especially those with limited access to public spaces? The Pandemic’s Impact on Community Spaces – 00:08:50 How did COVID-19 exacerbate issues with social isolation and third places? What role did commercial spaces play in social infrastructure before the pandemic, and how has that shifted? How do communities with strong social infrastructure fare better during crises? Research and Evidence Supporting Third Places – 00:10:20 What research highlights the life-and-death impact of social infrastructure in times of crisis? How does the decline in social clubs and organizations contribute to societal division? What can we learn from urban design in cities like Copenhagen to improve third spaces in the U.S.? Suburbanization and Its Effects on Connection – 00:13:41 How has suburbanization and car dependency impacted Americans' ability to connect with each other? What challenges do suburban layouts present for building social infrastructure? How does urban design in Europe foster a greater sense of community compared to the U.S.? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, we explore the transformative power of psychological flexibility with Dr. Ross White, an award-winning clinical psychologist and a leader in mental resilience and high-performance coaching. Currently a professor of clinical psychology at Queen’s University Belfast and founder of Strive to Thrive, Dr. White specializes in helping individuals and organizations unlock their potential while safeguarding mental well-being. His latest book, The Tree That Bends: How a Flexible Mind Can Help You Thrive, challenges the relentless “no-limits” mindset and presents a balanced approach to personal growth, integrating acceptance, commitment therapy, and mindfulness. Join us for a compelling conversation with Dr. Ross White as we explore the power of psychological flexibility in achieving true resilience and mental well-being. How can we balance the grit needed for high performance with the adaptability essential for sustainable growth? Dr. White discusses the “get, threat, and reset” modes that guide our energy and performance, revealing how psychological flexibility can protect us from burnout while enhancing success. Discover actionable insights into balancing ambition with rest, redefining mental toughness, and navigating the social pressures that drive relentless striving. This episode offers a new approach to thriving under pressure, helping you to achieve both performance and well-being in your personal and professional life. What to Listen For Introduction – 00:00:00 What are the “get, threat, and reset” modes that drive our mental energy and resilience? How does Dr. Ross White’s background in clinical psychology influence his approach to high performance and mental well-being? What can listeners expect from Dr. White’s latest book, The Tree That Bends, on balancing ambition with self-care? Redefining Resilience: Beyond Grit – 00:04:28 Why can grit sometimes be a barrier rather than a strength in high-stress environments? What does “thriving” truly mean according to Dr. White, and how does it balance both well-being and performance? How can persistence become counterproductive, and what role does adaptability play in reaching our goals? The Power of Psychological Flexibility in High-Performance Settings – 00:07:49 What is the importance of adaptability for executives, athletes, and other high achievers in preventing burnout? How can the “get, threat, and reset” framework help maintain peak performance while prioritizing mental health? Why should high performers balance drive with self-awareness and adaptability? Embracing Limits and Building Purpose – 00:13:00 What are “when-then” traps, and how can they hinder long-term fulfillment? How does Dr. White recommend redefining success to include well-being and self-care? Why is it vital to build purpose that aligns with personal values, rather than societal expectations? Harnessing Psychological Flexibility to Reduce Stress – 00:19:28 What is “psychological flexibility,” and how can it help us handle life’s stressors with greater resilience? How does comparing oneself to social media “highlight reels” fuel burnout, and what are healthier alternatives? Why is cultivating personal values a cornerstone of thriving under pressure? Techniques for Emotional Awareness and Anchoring – 00:33:41 How can techniques like the “roving reporter” exercise help us detach from negative thought patterns? What is “anchoring,” and why is it essential for managing challenging emotions? Why is emotional awareness crucial for navigating stress and making effective decisions? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices