On Attachment

• #183: How to Be a Better Partner

  When we think about improving our relationships, we’re often focused on what isn’t working — what our partner could do differently, how we’re not getting our needs met, where communication is breaking down.But in this episode, I want to invite a slightly different lens: what does it mean to be a better partner? Not from a place of self-sacrifice or perfectionism, but from a grounded, secure place. One that’s rooted in love, compassion, curiosity, and a willingness to show up with care.In this episode, we explore:Why our capacity to sit with discomfort can shape the tone of our relationshipsWhat it really means to listen with curiosity, rather than defensivenessHow our own insecurities can make us self-focused without realising itThe importance of meaningful repair after conflictThe difference between blame and honest self-reflectionWhy it matters to love your partner the way they receive love—not just how you like to give itThese aren’t tips to make yourself more palatable or easygoing. They’re invitations to grow, to connect more deeply, and to take ownership of your part in creating a secure and nourishing relational space.Free Masterclass: Anxious-Avoidant RelationshipsHighlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

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• #182: What to Do When Your Partner Doesn't Want to Work on Themselves (or the Relationship)

  One of the hardest things to face in a relationship is feeling like you're growing and evolving, while your partner seems simply unwilling to meet you there. Maybe you’ve suggested therapy, brought up recurring issues, or shared books and podcasts you love, only to be met with silence, shutdown, or defensiveness.In this episode, we’re exploring what to do when your partner doesn’t seem interested in personal growth or improving the relationship. We’ll talk about why this happens, what it means (and doesn’t mean), and how to navigate it in a way that honours your own needs without defaulting to blame or control.Whether you're in a long-term partnership or navigating something newer, this conversation will help you feel more grounded and clear in how you show up when things feel one-sided.In this episode, I cover:Why some people resist self-work or relationship growthHow attachment styles shape our responses to discomfort and changeThe difference between inviting vs. demanding growthWhy your healing doesn’t depend on your partner's participationWhat to do when you’ve tried everything and still feel stuckHighlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

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• #181: The Demonisation of Avoidant Attachment (& Why It Has to Stop)

  In today’s episode, I’m diving into a topic that’s both close to my heart and foundational to how I approach this work: the widespread demonisation of avoidant attachment — and why we need to stop doing it.It’s all too common, especially in online spaces, for people (often those with anxious attachment) to project blame, anger, and sweeping judgments onto those with avoidant attachment styles. But while that instinct may feel validating in the short term, it actually keeps us stuck.This episode is a call for compassion and nuance — not just for others, but for ourselves.Whether you’ve been hurt by someone with avoidant tendencies in the past or are currently struggling with anxious-avoidant dynamics, this conversation will invite you to take a broader, more honest look at the patterns playing out in your relationships and what healing really requires.In this episode, I cover:Why avoidant attachment is so often misunderstood and unfairly vilifiedHow our instinct to blame keeps us stuck in insecure patternsThe deeper origins of avoidant attachment — and how understanding this helps build compassionWhy anger, blame, and black-and-white thinking won’t help you healThe role of boundaries, discernment, and self-responsibility in moving forwardIf you're committed to growing into a more secure, grounded version of yourself, this episode is an invitation to pause and reflect on the narratives you’re holding — about others, and about yourself.Highlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

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• #180: 5 Hard Truths About Healing Anxious Attachment

  Healing anxious attachment is a life-changing journey — but it’s not always easy. While moving toward secure attachment can bring more ease, confidence, and healthier relationships, it also requires confronting some uncomfortable truths along the way. In this episode, we’re unpacking five hard truths about healing that will help you set realistic expectations and stay committed to your growth.What We Cover in This Episode:Why healing isn’t always comfortable — and why grief is often part of the processThe myth of waking up one day as "fully secure" and what real progress looks likeHow healing might disrupt your relationships (and why not everyone will like the changes you make)Why you won’t stop getting triggered — but how you can gain more control over your reactionsThe surprising truth: sometimes you’ll miss your old patterns, even the unhealthy onesHealing doesn’t mean never struggling again. It means showing up differently, practicing new choices, and being compassionate with yourself along the way. If you're in the thick of it, know that you're not alone, and every step forward matters.Highlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

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• #179: Why You Struggle With Self-Trust

  Self-trust is something we all want, but many of us struggle to build it. If you find yourself second-guessing your decisions, over-preparing for worst-case scenarios, or feeling like you can't rely on yourself, you're not alone. In this episode, we’re unpacking why self-trust is so challenging, especially for those with anxious attachment, and how to shift your focus to build a strong foundation of inner security.What We Cover in This Episode:Why anxiety craves control — and how this undermines self-trustThe inverse relationship between trust and controlHow trying to prevent bad things from happening leads to self-blameA powerful reframe: self-trust isn’t about making the "right" decision, but making decisions in alignment with your valuesThe biggest ways we unknowingly damage self-trustWhy building self-trust is essential for healing anxious attachmentSelf-trust isn’t about getting everything right or ensuring a perfect outcome, but about showing up with integrity and knowing you have your own back. 💌 Join the VIP List for Healing Anxious Attachment's Birthday Sale 💌Highlighted Links Download the FREE Anxious Attachment Starter Kit here September 2025 London Event Waitlist Additional Resources Join my email list 💌 Explore my library of free guides, classes & meditations Visit my website

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