Full-Tilt Parenting: Strategies, Insights, and Connection for Parents Raising Neurodivergent Children

Today’s episode is all about self-care for autistic people, and joining me is return guest Dr. Megan Anna Neff of Neurodivergent Insights. Megan Anna has just published a new book called Self-Care for Autistic People: 100+ Ways to Recharge, De-Stress, and Unmask! which she wrote to help autistic people accept themselves, destigmatize autism, find community, and take care of physical and mental health.

Megan Anna considers self-care to be a collective effort that includes the well-being of the community, a framework that really resonated with me. So we talk about that, along with other ideas from Megan Anna’s book, including how internalized ableism can hinder self-care, considerations for navigating self-care for individuals with PDA, and insights into co-regulation, sensory considerations, and how advocacy and accommodations in the workplace can also be forms of self-care.

 

ABOUT DR. MEGAN ANNA NEFF
Dr. Megan Anna Neff (she/they) is a neurodivergent Clinical Psychologist
and founder of Neurodivergent Insights where she creates education and
wellness resources for neurodivergent adults. Additionally, she is co-host of the Divergent Conversations podcast. As a late-diagnosed AuDHDer (Autistic ADHD), Dr. Neff applies their lived experiences from a cross-neurotype marriage and parenting neurodivergent children to their professional focus. They are committed to broadening the mental health field’s understanding of autism and ADHD beyond traditional stereotypes. This personal-professional blend enriches their work and advocacy within neurodiversity.

Dr. Neff is the author of Self-Care for Autistic People and a forthcoming book on Autistic Burnout. Additionally, she has published in several peer-reviewed journals on topics ranging from neurodivergence, place attachment, relational psychoanalysis, social psychology, and integration of spirituality into psychotherapy.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

Why self-care should be approached with self-attunement and an understanding of one’s own needs

Why self-care is a collective effort that includes the well-being of the community

How internalized ableism can hinder self-care and why it’s important to address it

Ideas for navigating self-care for individuals with PDA regarding autonomy, co-regulation, and sensory considerations

Ways to practice self-care in the workplace, including self-disclosure, documentation, and setting realistic expectations

 ADDITIONAL RESOURCES

Dr. Megan Anna Neff’s website


Self-Care For Autistic People by Dr. Megan Anna Neff

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Divergent Conversations Podcast

Neurodivergent Insights on Instagram

Neurodivergent Insights on Facebook

Dr. Megan Anna Neff on LinkedIn

Dr. Megan Anna Neff’s Link in Bio


Dr. Megan Anna Neff on Diagnoses and Misdiagnoses (Tilt Parenting Podcast)

Sarah Wayland


Is This Autism? A Guide for Clinicians and Everyone Else by Dr. Donna Henderson and Dr. Sarah Wayland

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Dr. Ross Greene’s work has profoundly shaped how so many of us think about kids’ behavior and what they actually need from the adults in their lives, so I’m thrilled to welcome him back to the show to talk about his brand new book, The Kids Who Aren’t Okay: The Urgent Case for Reimagining Support, Belonging, and Hope in Schools. Together, we explore the urgent need to reimagine how we support children in schools, especially as mental health concerns continue to rise. We dig into the importance of recognizing developmental variability, why meeting kids where they are is non-negotiable, and how current behavior-focused systems miss the real problems underneath. Ross also highlights the role parents and caregivers can play in advocating for meaningful change.

About Dr. Ross Greene 

Ross W. Greene, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and the originator of the innovative, evidence-based approach called Collaborative & Proactive Solutions (CPS), as described in his influential books The Explosive Child, Lost at School, Lost & Found, and Raising Human Beings. He also developed and executive produced the award-winning documentary film The Kids We Lose, released in 2018. Dr. Greene was on the faculty at Harvard Medical School for over 20 years, and is now founding director of the non-profit Lives in the Balance. He is also currently adjunct Professor in the Department of Psychology at Virginia Tech and adjunct Professor in the Faculty of Science at the University of Technology in Sydney, Australia. Dr. Greene has worked with several thousand kids with concerning behaviors and their caregivers, and he and his colleagues have overseen implementation and evaluation of the CPS model in countless schools, inpatient psychiatric units, and residential and juvenile detention facilities, with dramatic effect: significant reductions in recidivism, discipline referrals, detentions, suspensions, and use of restraint and seclusion. Dr.Greene lectures throughout the world and lives in Freeport, Maine.

Things you'll learn from this episode 

How kids today are facing unprecedented challenges that require new ways of thinking and responding

Why developmental variability matters and why every child needs support tailored to their unique profile

How schools can create more supportive ecosystems by using proactive rather than reactive approaches

Why behavior is often a late signal of unmet expectations, not the problem itself

How managing expectations and understanding root causes can reduce concerning behaviors

Why parents’ advocacy and the Collaborative & Proactive Solutions model can transform how children are supported in education

Resources mentioned


The Kids Who Aren’t Okay: The Urgent Case for Reimagining Support, Belonging, and Hope in Schools by Dr. Ross Greene


Never Too Early: CPS with Young Kids (documentary)


The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children by Dr. Ross Greene


Lives in the Balance (Dr. Greene’s website)


The B Team (Facebook group)


Lost at School: Why Our Kids With Behavioral Challenges are Falling Through the Cracks and How We Can Help Them by Dr. Ross Greene


Raising Human Beings: Creating a Collaborative Partnership with Your Child by Dr. Ross Greene


Lost and Found: Helping Behaviorally Challenge Students (and While You’re At It, All the Others by Dr. Ross Greene


The Kids We Lose (documentary)


How to Parent Angry and Explosive Children, with Dr. Ross Greene (Tilt Parenting podcast)

Ken Wilbur

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Dr. Christine Koh joins me for a conversation about vulnerability, boundary setting, leaning into discomfort, and making big, messy, life pivots. Christine is a music and brain scientist turned multimedia creative. She is a fierce believer in the power of humans, small moments and actions, and vulnerable, authentic storytelling. She communicates on these beliefs through her work as a writer (she is a contributor at the Washington Post, Boston Globe Magazine, and CNN; co-author of Minimalist Parenting; and founder of the award-winning blog Boston Mamas), podcaster (Edit Your Life, Hello Relationships), designer (Brave New World Designs), and creative director (Geben Communication). You can find her at @drchristinekoh on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

The importance of showing up for ourselves, more now than ever

Ways we can reduce overwhelm in life, especially when navigating really hard things

How the pandemic shifted Christine’s worries and parenting approach

How to set boundaries that are clear and that feel good to you

Why Christine believes intention requires attention and vulnerability

Why now is a great time to consider making a life pivot and change to bring us closer to our true North

 RESOURCES

Dr. Christine Koh’s website


Minimalist Parenting: Enjoy Modern Family Life More by Doing Less by Christine Koh and Asha Dornfest

Edit Your Life podcast

Hello Relationship podcast

Christine on Instagram

Christine on Twitter

Christine on Facebook

Recognizing the Need for Rest — Susan Stiffelman and Debbie Reber (podcast episode)


The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica Lahey

Mercedes Samudio Talks About Shame Proof Parenting (podcast episode)

Laura Tremaine


Share Your Stuff, I’ll Go First: 10 Questions to Take Your Friendships to the Next Level by Laura Tremaine

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Today we’re exploring something so many of us wrestle with but don’t
always name out loud — the impact of our own fear and anxiety on our
kids. I was actually about to record a solo episode when my friend and
colleague Sheryl Stoller sent me an email, and the sentiment behind it
stayed with me because it put into such simple, clear language the real
impact our fears about their future, their potential, their lives, can
have on our kids. In this short bite-sized conversation, we’ll talk
about how parental anxiety shapes family dynamics, why regulating our
own nervous systems is such a powerful gift we can offer our kids, and
how empathy, validation, and community support can help us move from
fear toward connection.

 

About Sheryl

Sheryl Stoller is a PCI Certified Parent Coach® who has devoted
herself to coaching overwrought parents of children whose abilities,
sensibilities, and behaviors go beyond expectations (gifted,
twice/multi-exceptional) since 2009. This is a personal journey as well
as an academic and professional one for Sheryl. She is deeply gratified
to serve parents the way she had needed when her children were young.

Sheryl integrates many fields of knowledge and training into her
coaching. Most recently, she is receiving her Somatic Attachment Therapy
Certification; and is a Positive Intelligence (PI) Mental Fitness
Coach, through Shirzad Chamine out of Stanford University. Sheryl
Co-Leads two communities of practice for PI – Parents and Families, and
Neurodiversity; and has received rave reviews for her customization of
PI for her “Aligned Parents” and “Get Mental and Emotional Fitness”
Group programs for 2E parents. Connect with Sheryl at:
[email protected]

 

Things you’ll learn from this episode:

How fear in parents can show up as anxiety — and how children often absorb and mirror that energy

Why managing our own fears is one of the most powerful ways we can support our kids

How empathy and validation create safety even when anxiety is present

Why remembering that everything is impermanent can help parents regain perspective

How focusing on past successes builds a child’s confidence and counters fear-based narratives

Why community, positive imagination, and ongoing learning remind parents they’re not alone in this journey

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This episode digs into the evolving understanding of ADHD and what it really means to parent with collaboration, connection, and support at the center. My guest is Cindy Goldrich, an internationally recognized expert in ADHD and executive function support and the author of 8 Keys to Parenting Kids & Teens with ADHD, a compassionate, research-informed guide that she’s just updated for today’s families. In our conversation, Cindy and I talk about why traditional approaches to ADHD often fall short and how parents can shift from managing behavior to building skills and connection. We also explore the challenges so many families face, what kids with ADHD are actually communicating, and practical, supportive strategies parents can start using right away.

About Cindy Goldrich 

Cindy Goldrich, Ed.M., ADHD-CCSP, is a mental health counselor, certified ADHD Clinical Services Provider, and internationally recognized expert in ADHD and Executive Function support. She is the founder of PTS Coaching, a leading organization dedicated to training and supporting parents, educators, and allied professionals.Cindy is the author of 8 Keys to Parenting Kids & Teens with ADHD: Supporting Your Child’s Executive Function, a compassionate and practical guide grounded in the latest research. She is also the co-author of ADHD, Executive Function & Behavioral Challenges in the Classroom, a widely used professional resource for educators.

Through her signature programs—the Calm & Connected: Parenting Kids & Teens with ADHD/Executive Function Challenges® parent workshop series, the ADHD Parent Coach Academy, and the ADHD Teacher Training Academy —Cindy has supported and trained thousands of parents and professionals worldwide. She also provides direct coaching to parents, students, and adults navigating ADHD and Executive Function challenges with empathy and actionable strategies. Known for her warm, engaging presence and practical wisdom, Cindy continues to advocate for a more compassionate, informed approach to supporting those who think and learn differently.

Things you'll learn from this episode  

How reduced stigma and a deeper understanding of neurodiversity are reshaping the ADHD conversation for families and schools

Why parenting the child you have means recognizing their unique needs, strengths, and developmental pace

How collaborating with kids can reduce power struggles and build self-awareness and confidence

Why enabling and supporting are fundamentally different—and how teaching skills fosters true independence

How prioritizing connection over correction leads to healthier, more resilient parent–child relationships

Why focusing on potential and creating low-stress zones can positively transform family dynamics

Resources mentioned

Cindy Goldrich’s PTS Coaching website


8 Keys to Parenting Kids & Teens with ADHD: Supporting Your Child's Executive Function by Cindy Goldrich


ADHD, Executive Function & Behavioral Challenges in the Classroom by Cindy Goldrich

Cindy Goldrich on LinkedIn

Cindy Goldrich on Instagram

Cindy Goldrich on Facebook

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