SexTok with Tracey and Kelsey

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I am a straight man and have had a few long-term relationships in my life. Although I enjoy sex, I never ejaculate during intercourse. I am now 50. I can orgasm with intense fantasy and oral sex, but never during penetration. I have read about sensate focus, but are there other options? I am fit and healthy and have no problems ejaculating while masturbating.2) My wife has put on a lot of weight and I’m simply not attracted to her anymore. I’m struggling to get an erection when she initiates sex, and rarely initiate myself. I still love her very much, but this is clearly a problem. How do I deal with this? She keeps asking me if I think she is fat and I keep saying no, but she’s probably twice the size she was when we first met.3) I always thought my oral sex skills were second to none, but it’s clear my new partner isn’t impressed. I know I’m being childish, but I feel hurt. Why did it work on everyone but him? And what do I do now? I only know one way.To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) My girlfriend and I seem to be going through a ‘dry spell.’ We haven’t had sex for about three months, and we used to have it weekly. Neither of us have talked about it and I feel like it’s becoming the elephant in the room. Life has been busy lately and I guess we just got out of the habit. How do we get back on track?2) What’s your view on sharing sex fantasies with your partner? I would like to tell my boyfriend of three months some of mine, but is it a bit too early in the relationship? I’ve never shared a fantasy before, but think he could be open to it.3) I’d like to spank my partner but how do I suggest it and what do I do? Any tips would be much appreciated. To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I have some questions for each of you, rather than one of my own. Tracey, you’re always talking about the right things to do in bed but what about the wrong things? What are the top three things both of you would never do In bed? 2) What do penis sleeves feel like for women during sex? Do they feel realistic? We have been using them for years, mainly to help with my premature ejaculation during penetration. I would happily wear one every time for sex, but not sure if that’s something she would enjoy. Also, are they meant to be used to delay orgasm or to increase penis size?3) I asked my wife to say mean things to me in bed – ridicule me about my exes, my penis size, my stamina. Now I struggle to get turned on without her doing it. If she’s nice to me or shows that I am satisfying her, my orgasm isn’t half as satisfying. What is it about humiliation that makes men like me enjoy it so much?To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions:1) I’m a 50-year-old woman and new to sex toys. I’ve tried a few Rabbit vibrators and find them all much too powerful and rough. Can you recommend something with a smaller, more gentle style? They all seem to advertise power as a plus, but for me it's awful! 2) I’m a 37 and have never had an orgasm (by myself or with a partner). My sex drive is low, but my husband is great at oral and he’s gotten me closer to an orgasm than anyone ever has. But I don’t want to spend 40 minutes with him going down on me—even though he's happy to—so I encourage him to switch to penetration and once he orgasms, I’m done. He’d like to go straight on to round two and continue having sex for ages. I know it’s about the journey, and not the destination. But if you don’t use an orgasm as a marker, how do you know when to end sex? How do I stop never-ending foreplay or extensive penetrative sessions without saying something hurtful like, ‘I’m bored’ or ‘This isn’t interesting enough to keep me from wanting to go to sleep’?3) I’m a 38-year-old straight man and nervous about dating after leaving a long-term relationship. I wouldn’t say I’ve let myself go, but my body isn’t what it was. And it’s certainly not what I see on Instagram or mens' profiles in dating apps. I haven’t slept with anyone other than my girlfriend in 15 years and am worried I won’t measure up to this new body ideal. Am I being paranoid, or have the rules changed? To have Tracey and Kelsey discuss YOUR secret sex question, enter it anonymously at https://bit.ly/3C4AelUWant a copy of Tracey’s book, Great Sex Starts at 50? Enter code GREATSEX on ChronicleBooks.com for 30% off! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.