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Discover how maternal mental health care is evolving and why specialized support is critical for mothers with Paige Bellenbaum, LCSW, PMH-C and Rebecca Geshuri, LMFT, PMH-C.   In this episode we explore:   - What dyadic work is and how this can be especially beneficial for mothers and birthing people for developing a bond with their child.   - How Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy can support mothers in addressing their inner “mom parts” that contribute to feelings of failure and overwhelm.   - How polarized parts and perfectionism can create distress in motherhood and how embracing a “both-and” mentality can offer relief and self-compassion.   - The questions to ask when looking for a provider to ensure they’re trained in maternal mental health and understand the complexities of this life stage.   - Why it's so important for pediatricians, OBGYNs, or anyone who often comes into contact with birthing parents to have even a basic understanding of this transformative experience.   Whether you’re a mother seeking support, a professional working with birthing parents, or simply someone invested in breaking the stigma around mental health and motherhood, this episode is filled with practical insights you won't want to miss.     REGISTER FOR THE TRAINING ON FEB. 27: Go to upshurbren.com/IFSTraining to register for this 3-hour workshop designed to teach professionals how to integrate Internal Family Systems concepts into maternal mental health services to provide improved support for moms.   LEARN MORE ABOUT THE MOTHERHOOD CENTER: https://themotherhoodcenter.com/   LEARN MORE ABOUT REBECCA: https://www.rebeccageshurilmft.com/get-to-know-me   ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: Postpartum Support International Ghosts in the Nursery: A Psychoanalytic Approach to the Problems of Impaired Infant-Mother Relationships   LISTEN TO PAIGE & REBECCA'S PAST EPISODES: 🎧 Using Internal Family Systems to emotionally support mothers with the creators of The Mothercentric Approach   🎧 Preventing tragedy and shining a light on postpartum psychosis: What it is, what it's not, and how to find support for yourself or a loved one with Paige Bellenbaum

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   - How to best approach daycare transitions and is there a right or a wrong answer to this question?    - The most important questions to ask yourself to determine which of these scenarios will be easiest for your unique child.   - Is it better to have a single, potentially steeper transition or a slower, more incremental transition?   - The key things to consider (like sleep habits, separation anxiety, etc.) to help you determine which is best for your individual situation.   - Zooming out to see how this change will impact the entire family system and adding these factors into your decision making process.     REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: 📚 Transitioning to a new daycare     ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about turning parenthood into a career asset with Lauren Smith Brody   🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about helping child with separation anxiety   🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about being a working parent with Daisy Dowling     WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU: Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!

Neha Ruch is sharing strategies for embracing flexibility as you balance, shift, and grow in both your career and parenthood.   In this episode we explore:   - How to redefine what “career” means to you at this stage of life and navigate the evolving roles of being a working or stay-at-home parent.   - Why downshifting your career can be a valuable smaller step if you're not ready to take a full pause.   - Preparing for this transition to feel less overwhelming—emotionally, financially, and in terms of your shifting identity.   - Supporting women in feeling validated and respected in their choices to dial up or down in their careers.   - How motherhood can be a time to foster creativity and the importance of staying connected to what brings you joy—whether it's for work or personal fulfillment.   - A good first step for moms who don’t know where to begin in making this shift.   - What a “family administration” meeting is and how to evaluate what’s working and what’s not—giving yourself permission to let go of what isn’t serving you.   Don't miss this episode that will help you redefine what career means to you!       LEARN MORE ABOUT NEHA: https://www.motheruntitled.com/   READ NEHA'S NEW BOOK: 📚 The Power Pause: How to Plan a Career Break After Kids--and Come Back Stronger Than Ever   ADDITIONAL REFERENCES AND RESOURCES: 🎧 Listen to Neha's first Securely Attached episode, Redefining what it means to be a stay-at-home parent with Neha Ruch   📱 I sang my sister’s praise in this episode! Check out @mychicnest to follow along with her interior design account.   CHECK OUT ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE: 🎧 Going back to work after baby: Maintaining a healthy and secure attachment bond Q&A with Dr. Emily Upshur   🎧 Turning parenthood into a career asset for working moms and dads with The Fifth Trimester’s Lauren Smith Brody   🎧 What it means to be a working parent today: Challenging parental guilt, managing your time, and setting effective boundaries with Daisy Dowling    

Beyond the Sessions is answering YOUR parenting questions! In this episode, Dr. Emily Upshur and I talk about...   - Unpacking your own feelings about swearing (or any undesirable behaviors) your child is engaging in.   - How to teach your child to attune to their environment and know when and where certain behaviors are appropriate and when and where they are not.   - Zooming out to identify what your child’s intention is when they are swearing (to test boundaries, in anger, in silly moments, etc.) to help you know how to respond.   - When and how to use strategies that have the greatest likelihood of getting this behavior to stop.   - A playful script that can defuse the tension and keep you from feeling triggered.    - The big differences to the approaches you may want to try based on who is the recipient of inappropriate or hurtful language.   - How to get your children to disengage from each other’s negative behaviors, instead of being fueled by each other.   - How Dr. Sarah and Dr. Emily handle swearing in their own homes with their kids.   - The benefits of swearing that may surprise you.     REFERENCES AND RELATED RESOURCES: Swearing may be a sign of a higher intelligence Cursing can increase pain tolerance      ADDITIONAL PODCAST EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE:   🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about what to do when kids say they hate themselves   🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about what to do when kids say they hate you   🎧 Listen to my podcast episode about enforcing consequences that teach     WE WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU:   Go to https://drsarahbren.com/question to send us a question or a topic you want to hear us answer on Securely Attached - Beyond the Sessions!